The unresolved pain of having been hurt by a marriage partner can be a huge obstacle to a happy, healthy relationship. The longer it takes to resolve the pain, the more damage it will do to the marriage. The following steps can help you get past the hurt. First, identify what hurt and how you reacted to it. Next, set a time to talk to your partner about what hurt and why it still hurts. Take turns talking and listening with no arguments or interruptions. Now that you’ve heard and understand each other, you have a chance to let go of the past and rebuild trust. In the future, deal with hurts as they happen.
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