A new book about Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor reveals their deep love and chaotic relationship. For some, love should be safe and stable, but for others, “It can be a bodice-ripping, booze-soaked, jewel-bedecked brawl that survives even death.” The chaotic love of Taylor-Burton is described by Esther Perel as eroticism. The question becomes: how can we ask the same relationship to give us the safety and stability we need and the excitement, edge, novelty, adventure, and risk of eroticism? According to Perel, “Whatever eroticism thrives on is what family life defends against.” She explains that emotional and erotic needs are quite different, but when combined add up to “the ultimate adult relationship.”

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