In an attempt to improve our sex life, we read books that contain phrases like “research shows,” “brain science proves,” “nature intends,” or “God wants.” These phrases come from “authority” and who are we to question it? The only conclusion we can reach is that there must be something wrong with us. People come to sex therapy because they’re not having enough sex, or there’s something wrong with their performance, their equipment, and their lack of desire. The truth is, sex isn’t natural, normal, or easy for us. Experiences from our childhood onward can block desire and cause anxiety, fear, shame, and confusion.

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